I feel this a very touchy topic amongst women. A lot of women think they have it all down and that they are the correct ones, while other women don’t even want to accept that God has given us a guide to wholesome living through His Word. If we look at the big picture of it all, it comes down to figuring out how to be “in the world but not of it.” I’m sure that most Christians have heard this phrase at least once. It’s the idea that, as sinners saved by God’s grace, we still live in a fallen world, but we do not have to conform to it or become it. This may sound simple enough, but it’s not always easy.
This is where the Kardashians come in (I know you were all waiting to see how I would tie them into this). Let me start by saying that if you “keep up” with the Kardashians I am not putting you down. We all have guilty pleasures, so I understand, but please hear me out. I personally do not know much about them, but I do know that they have money, fame, unrealistic and surgically altered bodies, and enough drama to entertain millions of people on the daily. The things they do and say for money and publicity are absolutely ridiculous. In preparation for writing this post, I decided to look up one or two of them on Instagram. What I found crushed my spirit, if I’m being honest. Some of these women are mothers or mothers to be, and the pictures they have posted for the entire world to see made me want to cry. Almost fully revealing photos with millions of likes, and these are women that young girls around the world look up to and want to be like.
This is where the Proverbs 31 woman comes in. If you have never read Proverbs 31: 10-31, I encourage you to take a look. From reading this passage, we see that it goes deeper than modesty. It’s not just about taking on certain characteristics; It’s a lifestyle. This woman has devoted her life to pursuing holiness. She works hard to make a home for her husband and children. She is trustworthy. She cares for and shows compassion towards those in need. She is humble and is clothed in strength and dignity. She realizes that outward appearances are not most important. She speaks wisdom and truth. Her husband and children consider her blessed. She pleases God. God gave us this example so that we could have an appropriate representation of what a woman after God’s own heart looks like.
You may be thinking, “Wow. God sure does expect a lot from imperfect people.” God does not expect perfection. He does not expect perfection, but He does want us to meet Him halfway. He has given us the tools through the Bible, but we have to put in the work. We will fail more often than not. God knows this, but still He desires our hearts. By committing your life to please God you open up your heart for God to come in and work through you.
I have come to a few realizations in my own life recently. For Christmas, I received a book written by one of my favorite authors, Jess Connolly, called Dance Stand Run. In this book the author digs deeper into the importance of holiness in our lives and what it looks like. I realized that the concept of holiness, based on my observations, is often only used when talking about God. I also realized that the absence of the pursuit of holiness was exactly what I was missing in my walk with God. I began to think about what I was listening to, what I was watching, and what I was doing with my free time. I asked myself, “Would this please God?” And the answer was “no” more often than I’d like to admit. These realizations are what brought me back to Proverbs 31. I began to see that I have to choose who I am going to be each and every day as either a woman of virtue or a woman of the world.
Now, you may say, “But I’m not married, so half of these verses do not apply to me yet.” Not. True. I am not married yet, and I don’t have kids yet. But I want to have a family someday. Every night, before I go to bed, I say a quick little prayer for my future husband, and I am not even lying about that. I also pray that God helps to prepare me to be a good wife and role model for my future children. This is the best place to start if you are single. Because if you are focusing and thinking about this now, your heart will be in the right place when the time comes.
To wrap this all up, I’d like you to ask yourself three questions:
- What kind of woman am I choosing to be, a Proverbs 31 woman or a Kardashian?
- Is my current lifestyle reflective of the woman I want to be? Of what God wants me to be?
- What kind of role model do I want to be for the young women who look up to me?
In conclusion, I thought I would close with a few verses.
Proverbs 31: 25-26 & 30-31
Strength and dignity are her clothing, and she laughs at the time to come. She opens her mouth with wisdom, and the teaching of kindness is on her tongue. Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised. Give her of the fruit of her hands, and let her works praise her in the gates.